Dear Christian Single: An Open Letter

Dear Christian Single,

I see you there stuck in despair.

Friend, I see your frustrated with everything that comes along with the single season.

And, I hear you patiently (and sometimes not so patiently) questioning God when it will be your turn.

I see you wondering if any other young people hold standards and morals as high as you do.  One quick look around makes it seem as if you’re the only one left.  A second look around leaves you without hope. 

Friend, I understand your feelings, your frustrations, and your worries.  I understand your desire to not want to tie yourself to someone who kicks rocks in your path.  God sees you in your despair and frustrations, too. If you take the time to pray, seek His will, and listen, He will help you and relieve you of your despair and frustration.

Despair is a bad feeling.

One night in my own despair and frustration (most likely after a random guy bombarded my inbox with messages not fit to be repeated), I, too, wondered and questioned God if I was the only one left who held her morals and standards high.

And, you know what, friend?

In the midst of my despair, God brought Elijah to my mind.

Why Elijah?

Because in 1 Kings 19 we find a man who was frustrated, fearful, and also in despair.  Elijah, one of the greatest prophets in history, had refused to bow down to Baal and destroyed many of Jezebel’s prophets by the sword.  It’s safe to say that Elijah held onto his convictions and followed God without reservations.  But, yet, Elijah was fearful for his life and worried he was alone.   He knew if Jezebel’s army could catch him, he would lose his life.  Even after an angel of the Lord ministered to him, Elijah still hid himself away in a cave.  In his limited sight, Elijah felt he was the only one of God’s people left that did not bow down and kiss Baal.

He felt alone.  He was in despair.  And he was frustrated.

Despair leaves us feeling frustrated and alone.

No, Christian Single, I know what you are thinking.  And you’re exactly right, Elijah wasn’t a bit concerned about singleness.  From reading 1 Kings, it’s clear the man had bigger fish to fry.  And now I hear you asking me, Cassie, how does Elijah relate to feeling like the only person on the planet who is painfully single and who also desires to follow God and His plan?  Elijah’s frustrations and fear have nothing to do with what I’m feeling!

Well, friend, you would be wrong.

Elijah felt alone, too.  But, he wasn’t.

Take heart.  Don’t despair.

In the middle of Elijah’s cave, God whispered to Elijah that He had saved 7,000 people from bowing down and kissing Baal.  Not one person.  Not even a hundred people.  But, 7,000 other people were dedicated to living a life for God.  7,000 other people refused to let loose of their morals and standards simply because the rest of the world had lost their mind.  But, Elijah would never see those 7,000 other people if he was too busy wallowing in his cave and not following God’s plan for him.

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Christian single friend, I know you feel alone, too.

I know you see the world throwing any semblance of morals and standards right out the window and tossing them to the breeze.

But, dear friend, I promise you there are other single Christians with the same morals and standards as you.  And they, too, are clinging to their faith just as tightly as you are.  Look past the world, look to the Cross, and walk away from your cave of despair with your head held high.  Take comfort in knowing that the Lord has someone prepared especially for you who is also living their life for Him.

Don’t despair.