Wow. Okay. This post has proven to be a little tougher to write than I imagined it would be. Especially since it is a topic that seems to come up in conversation almost daily… you’d think the words would just flow, but no.
No, I am not talking about politics… Although, I suppose I have a few thoughts to share on that front. But, that’s a different time and a different place.
I’m talking about marriage and relationships.
My sweet mother and I were discussing this very topic a few weeks ago and she said something that has been running back and forth in my head ever since then. It’s pretty much a guarantee if something has been stuck in my head, y’all are going to see a post about it (#sorrynotsorry).
If any of you have ever had a discussion about marriage with your mother, your grandmother, your aunt, your whoever, I’d almost venture to say that she may have told you something like “I just want the best for you!” Am I right?
I expected my mother to say that, too, the day we were discussing it. But instead, she said something a little different from the “only the best for my baby!” norm. She said, “I don’t want you to marry someone who will kick rocks in your path”.
I don’t want you to marry someone who will kick rocks in your path… Huh. Definitely something to stop and think about, yea?
The Bible tells us in 1 Peter 5:8 be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary, the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour. Picture that lion for a second. That old, scarred lion, who is probably hungry, awfully sneaky, and a whole lot impatient, is pacing back and forth batting stumbling blocks with his paws into a Christian’s path in an attempt to make him or her stumble and fall.
Or, kicking rocks.
This isn’t a new revelation. We’ve been warned of this time and time again. If you’re a dedicated Bible reader, you’ll know the Bible has given us plenty of examples of traps the adversary has set for people. Some of those traps were avoided by the grace of God. Other traps? Yeah, not so much. Think about Samson and Delilah and you’ll see my point.
No one likes to think of relationships (whether a romantic relationship or a friendship) as a trap. But in some cases, that’s exactly what the devil turns them in to be– a trap.
Often times, many people rush into a new relationship without first praying for guidance and wisdom, without listening to Godly advice, or considering the consequences of what a relationship with this new person might bring. If the person isn’t living for the Lord and we neglect to pray, seek advice, or consider the outcome, it’s very likely we are cinching the knot to tie ourselves directly to someone who is going to drag us off of the path to the Cross.
Every Christian, regardless of relationship status, is bound to hit a rock the adversary has placed into our path. Big rocks are easier to spot, and sometimes through prayer, are easier to overcome. It’s the smaller pebbles that we tend to stump our toe on, shake off the pain, and carry on. All the while, attempting to slide other pebbles out of the way in the process. Eventually those smaller rocks heap up into a big pile. If we are not careful, the smaller pebbles, the ones we generally overlook, will cause greater harm than we could ever imagine. Especially if those pebbles are falling into our paths from the pockets of someone we’ve tied the knot with.
But, we don’t have to willfully choose a partner who is going to be a stumbling block in our lives. If we are truly seeking to live in God’s will and follow His plan for our lives, we will wait for His timing and trust that He will send someone to help push us over those bigger stumbling blocks in our path. Not kick pebbles in our way.